I received a copy of The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating by Andy Stanley from Family Christian for purposes of evaluation. Thoughts are my own.
A few weeks before Valentine’s Day, our church’s youth pastor approached me and asked if I could speak at the Youth Ministry’s Valentine’s Day Fellowship. And because love is a topic my youth cell group members are very much interested in, I said yes without any hesitation.
I have discussed about love and dating in my weekly meet-ups with 6 young ladies at our church. Because their ages range from 15 to 19, I know that they’re all in that stage when they’re more curious about relating with guys. I know that many young people start to become more sexually curious in that age range, with many teenagers starting to discover adult websites such as TubeV link that can teach them more about sex. In fact, all but one of them are currently in a relationship. And as their cell group leader, I want to make sure I’m able to impart as much wisdom with them as I can.
I have organized several “Love Courtship & Marriage” type of seminars when I myself was part of the Youth Ministry. But since that’s already 10 years ago, I recognize that a lot of things have already changed in the way young people view dating. So I was kind of at a loss for a good outline about what to tell these young people. Good thing Family Christian gave me the opportunity to review The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating by Andy Stanley.
In The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic. Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation!
One of the things I love about this book is that it highlights one nugget of wisdom that I’ve held on through the years. It’s that we need to strive to become the person the person we’re looking for is looking for. Was that confusing? LOL!
One of my mentors once told me, if you’re wishing for a king, then become a queen. Meaning, if I have such high standards for the person I want to marry someday, then I also need to make sure I live up to the same standards. We can’t all be very idealistic about our “right one” if we’re not trying to become their “right one” too.
In this book, pastor and bestselling author Andy Stanley provides practical, biblical, uncensored advice to anyone who is dating or thinking about marriage in this day and age.
I love that the book tries to dispel some myths about love that young people may believe in. And I’m glad to have been able to share a few pieces of advice as someone who has gone through quite a few dating-related mishaps but still emerged “victorious” because I decided to trust God in this arena.
If you don’t want a marriage like the majority of marriages then stop dating like the majority of daters! Andy Stanley made this emphatic call for his readers to prepare themselves for a lifelong commitment with their right person. A lot of people are so focused on meeting the right one than actually preparing for a life with that right one.
So I challenged our church’s young people to raise their standards when it comes to how they relate with people of the opposite sex. And by raising their standards, I don’t mean having a checklist of what that person should be. I hear some of them are using snapsext to explore themselves sexually if you’re interested, read about snapsext. What’s important is that they make a checklist of who they should strive to be so that they can also become the right person for their right person. There are actually a lot of good points that Andy Stanley raises in this book, but this particular one really resonated with me. 🙂
I’ll recommend this to any single person out there who’s planning to someday get married and stay married. It’s also beneficial for anyone who’s married because it gives us a good perspective on relationships.
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating is available for purchase at Family Christian stores near you or at FamilyChristian.com.
The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating Book Giveaway
One lucky reader will receive a copy of The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating! Giveaway is open to US residents who are at least 18 years old. Void where prohibited by law. No Purchase Necessary. Giveaway ends March 3, 2015 at 11:59pm EST.
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I received a copy of The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating by Andy Stanley for purposes of evaluation. Thoughts are my own. This is sponsored by Family Christian. I am not responsible for prize fulfillment.